The Gift of Failure: How to Step Back and Let Your Child Succeed
All of us want the best for our children. But are we going about it the right way? In this fascinating and eye-opening book, Jessica Lahey suggests that with all our best intentions to protect our children from tripping up - rushing to school to deliver forgotten lunches or homework, or perhaps even correcting that homework in order to ensure they gain top grades - we are in danger of depriving them of the most important lessons of childhood. As Lahey has discovered, disappointments, rejections and criticism are actually opportunities in disguise. Again and again, the students from her classes who go on to be the happiest and most successful adults are not the ones for whom everything always seemed to go right; they are the ones who were allowed to suffer the consequences of their mistakes - for failure strengthens grit like nothing else. Drawing on the latest educational and psychological research, The Gift of Failure gently guides the modern parent towards a love of the ordinary, showing the link between self-sufficiency and self-esteem. This is a book which should transform not just our parenting methods, but the way we all approach our lives.
"Beautifully written, deeply researched, this is the one book we all need to read if we want to instil the next generation with confidence and joy." Susan Cain, author of Quiet. "Essential reading for anyone who wants to guide children towards lives of independence, creativity and courage." - Gretchen Rubin, author of The Happiness Project. "Instead of lecturing us about what we're doing wrong, Jessica Lahey reveals what she did wrong with her own children and students - and how she systematically reformed her ways. A refreshing, practical book for parents who want to raise resilient kids but aren't sure where to start." - Amanda Ripley, author of The Smartest Kids in the World.
Jessica Lahey is an American teacher and writer. She writes the bi-weekly "Parent-Teacher Conference" advice column for the New York Times, is a regular contributor to the Atlantic.